Yes bible verse for wives and moms…because we are wives first and then moms. Of course I’m talking specifically for those women who are married and have babies! I’ll do a post later for the single mamas out there…it’s just that I’m a wife and mama so I want to share which messages from God help me stay SANE!
Marriage and motherhood have taken me on quite a journey! Those of you going through it must know what I’m talking about! It has been an even crazier journey because of the changes in our lifestyle, our schedules and even much of our biblical knowledge!
Blogs like the Peaceful Wife and books like The Excellent Wife by Martha Pearce, have definitely given me support, reminding me to focus on our Father first and His message for us at every moment. So I would like to share some verses that have helped me along this path. I have been through, and still have, many struggles with balancing my roles. I now know through this journey that I can only find peace in the Lord and is not fair for me to put that burden on my partner. These verses remind me that my duty is to our Father first, then my husband, and then my baby and family etc etc.
At times it feels unbearable and difficult because our men sometimes don’t really know the mental and physical struggles of being a mom or might not even be as helpful as you need them to be. The sleepless nights, so many sacrifices, even shower time is cut and so much pressure! Well thankfully our Lord has made provision for us, and we can lay our burdens at His feet. So we can provide for our families and still keep our sanity…and be loving and graceful as we do it all!
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
If you are anything like me then you will have not kept quiet and let everything out! If you’re upset then your partner will know it hahaha! Well its ok to let them know you are upset, but we have to be a bit classy, humble, and well duh LOVING! Another reason this verse helps me is because we need to do a lot more listening. Listen to our Father in heaven, listen to our husbands, and listen to wise counsel. Sometimes were so caught up in the drama we just want to talk and talk and tell him everything he’s doing wrong and how we feel and then tell all our friends and family…WAIT…slow down and listen to Our Lord. Then listen to your partner, really listen not just sit there thinking how wrong he is! Then listen to wise counsel. Another problem I had was when I would seek counsel it was just to hear how right I was and how wrong he must be. But the truth is…its not about who is right or wrong in a marriage…its about keeping the peace and love… this is what will bring about more peace and love…and the justice of right and wrong will come along with it if you leave it up to our Lord.
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.
This one goes along pretty well with the previous verse…if all we’re thinking about is how wrong are husbands are and how unfair they are or whatever the case may be, then the meditation in our heart is not clean or righteous. So how about we pray this to our Father, that the meditation of our heart can be acceptable. Then when we are ready to speak, our words can be acceptable in His sight also. In this way we are bringing glory to our heavenly Father and honoring and respecting our husbands, whom He has given to us!
Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
There are many things I can say about this verse! First of all the part that hit me the most when I read this verse in the light of my marriage life is “for the joy that was set before him“. This opened my eyes and blew my mind. I’m sure I had read this verse many times before and just overlooked the depth of those words. For the joy that was set before him…how does that apply to us? Well what is the joy set before us? What is the whole point of what you are working towards? It can be a small goal or a great reward. Something like filling someones belly by working to make dinner…or greater like focusing our mind and heart on our Lord to have eternal life with Him. The Excellent Wife was where I read this verse in respect to my role as a wife and mom…This really helped me overcome some struggles in my spiritual life by reminding me not only just how much our Father is doing for us and how much He has already done for us, but showing me a need to apply it on my own thoughts and meditation.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
This verse is a bit of a give in. We must accept the Spirit in our lives and this is the fruit she will give. Filled with our Father’s word and His Spirit we can not go wrong. It takes a bit of work, as long as we focus on His things and not the things of this world we are on the right track. Remember all these positive words when you are feeling the exact opposite. Towards are husbands and our babies is whom we really need to show all these wonderful ACTIONS. Yes we will slip, and yes people don’t help make this happen…that’s why we NEED the Lord!
Yes you were probably expecting this one weren’t you! Well of course I’m going to talk about the Proverbial Woman...the woman who is PERFECT. Ok no….we are not going to be exactly like this woman…I just want to make a few comments about some verses that have really helped me.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Who can find her? Well our men found us, however you came to be married, even if he thinks you’re not priced far above rubies…you are. Even if he doesn’t make you feel so…you are! And if he does well then congratulations! Sometimes I don’t feel this way…but guess what, our Father in Heaven does feel this way about you! You are far above rubies to HIM!
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
This verse says the heart of her husband…so even if he doesn’t show that he trusts you, or he doesn’t outright say how great you are and show all his appreciation, his heart does know it. Our duty is not to demand this attention or love or trust, let us give it freely, even if we don’t think they care or deserve it. We will do good to our husbands our the days of our life!
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Open your mouth with wisdom. Our husbands need to hear wisdom and kindness so they can function…they need love and respect, if we open our mouth in foolishness we will only make matters worse. Our children are learning how we speak. They learn our manners before they even know what it is, our even how to enunciate clearly. Let’s show them how we speak kindly to our husbands and they too will repeat this. Not only our words but our actions as well. They see us cleaning and having things orderly and will feel loved just by this small thing, both our husbands and children.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
This may seem like the life of someone from a fairybook, but this can truly be! We may not receive praise from our husbands everyday, but he may do it internally at first and then outwardly at time. Our children are so connected to our Father they just know sometimes that you are blessed!
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Know you’re place as a daughter of the Most High! You are His daughter, royalty, priestess, servant, wife, mother…yes all and more! Know that nobody can take this from you except you. You have the power to choose your actions. Now be a blessing!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Read these words slowly and carefully. Meditate on these words. Not only for you marriage, for your children, but for yourself and for the Most High! Memorize these words, repeat them as often as you can. Replace ‘love’ with your own name and repeat it.
I pray for you who are reading this and please reach out to your Lord! Reach out to your sisters in Faith! Don’t be a lonely wife and mom. Having support makes things easier as well.
Keep the Faith!